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Faith and Therapy: An Evidence-Based Integration Guide

April 2026 · 18 min read · Free resource

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A Safe Refuge Counselling guide for Christian and Catholic women who want their faith held carefully alongside their therapeutic work.


1. Do I have to choose between therapy and my faith?

The question arrives in a dozen different forms, but it is nearly always the same question underneath.

"I want to see a counsellor, but I am worried she will treat my faith as a symptom."

"I want a Christian counsellor, but I am worried I will get prayer when what I need is proper help for what happened to me."

"My priest said I should talk to someone. My friend said I should pray more. My GP handed me a referral. I do not know who is right."

"I have been to a counsellor before and she flinched when I mentioned the rosary. I have been to a church group and they told me depression was a spiritual attack. I am tired."

For many Christian and Catholic women in Australia, therapy and faith sit in two separate rooms with the door shut between them. This guide is written for the woman standing in the hallway, wondering whether she has to pick a room.

The short answer is no. The longer answer, which is what this guide is for, is that faith and good therapy can sit in the same room when the counsellor understands both the clinical frame and the theological frame, and knows where her own scope ends.

This is not a pitch for any one approach. It is a guide to what the research actually says, what faith-integrated counselling looks like in practice, and, just as importantly, what it is not. Faith-integrated counselling is not pastoral care. It is not spiritual direction. It is not prayer ministry. A counsellor who knows her scope will tell you so clearly, and will help you find those things elsewhere when you need them.

Safe Refuge Counselling is a private counselling practice for women, founded and solely operated by Aana Carpenter, a registered counsellor (ACA Level 1) and a practising Catholic. It is not a domestic violence service, despite what the name can suggest at first reading. This is a faith sub-brand guide, which means it leads with faith because the reader has asked for faith to lead. That said, nothing in this guide makes clinical claims beyond a counsellor's scope. Counsellors support, help, explore, and guide. Diagnosis and clinical treatment sit with psychologists, psychiatrists, and GPs.

Content warning. This guide references trauma, depression, anxiety, grief, spiritual abuse, and suicidal ideation in general terms. It contains no graphic description. If you are in crisis, please scroll to the help-seeking strip at the end of this guide, or call Lifeline on 13 11 14 now.

A note on scope. This guide uses "Christian" as an umbrella term where the research and practice apply across traditions, and distinguishes Catholic and Protestant positions where the distinctions matter. They often do. Collapsing them into a generic frame is one of the reasons women have felt unseen by both secular therapists and church communities.


2. A short history: suspicion, thaw, and the long work of integration

For most of the twentieth century, faith communities and the discipline of psychology treated each other with polite distance at best and open hostility at worst.

The early suspicion was mutual. Freud described religion as "the universal obsessional neurosis of humanity" in The Future of an Illusion (1927). Skinnerian behaviourism had no room for the soul. Humanistic psychology, when it arrived, was often explicitly post-religious. For many believers, sending a distressed family member to a psychologist felt like handing her to someone who would quietly try to talk her out of her faith.

Faith communities had their own version of the suspicion, and their own reasons. For centuries, pastoral care, confession, spiritual direction, and the anointing of the sick had done the work of attending to the inner life. A new secular profession, arriving with a vocabulary of drives and complexes, looked like a competitor rather than a colleague. In some corners of the Protestant world, "nouthetic" or strictly biblical counselling movements from the 1970s onwards argued that Scripture alone was sufficient for what they called "problems in living," and that secular psychology had nothing to teach the church.

The thaw was slow. In the Catholic tradition, Pius XII gave the first carefully worded papal opening in his 1953 address to the International Congress of Psychotherapy and Clinical Psychology. He affirmed the legitimate domain of psychological science while warning against reductive accounts of the human person. Subsequent magisterial teaching has continued that careful both-and posture: a real appreciation for the gifts of the behavioural sciences, and a refusal to let them stand in for a full Christian anthropology.

By the late twentieth century, three things had shifted. Psychology of religion emerged as a serious research field, with figures like Kenneth Pargament, Harold Koenig, and Everett Worthington publishing in mainstream peer-reviewed journals. Major professional bodies updated their codes of ethics to require respect for clients' religious and spiritual commitments as part of cultural competence. And inside faith communities, a generation of clinically trained Christians began to articulate integrative models that held the clinical and the theological together without collapsing either.

The result, in Australia in 2026, is a field that is still untidy but substantially more hopeful than it was thirty years ago. The Christian Counsellors Association of Australia (CCAA) is one institutional expression of this work. Individual Catholic and Protestant counsellors registered with the Australian Counselling Association (ACA) or the Psychotherapy and Counselling Federation of Australia (PACFA) are another.

The thaw is not complete. Some church cultures still treat therapy as a failure of faith. Some clinicians still treat faith as a variable to be managed. This guide is written from inside the thaw, for women who have felt the cold from both sides.


3. What the research actually says

The short version: religion and spirituality, on balance, are associated with better mental health outcomes, but the picture is more nuanced than either side of the old argument would like.

The long version requires some care.

Harold Koenig and the Duke literature. Koenig's Handbook of Religion and Health (Koenig, King and Carson, second edition, Oxford, 2012) remains the largest systematic review of the field, covering more than 3,000 studies. Its headline findings are that higher religious involvement is associated, on average, with lower rates of depression, lower rates of substance use, lower suicide rates, better coping with serious illness, and modestly better overall wellbeing. The effects are not enormous, but they are consistent across many samples and designs.

Two caveats matter. First, most of this research is American and Protestant-weighted. Australian samples are much smaller, and Catholic, Orthodox, Pentecostal, and culturally specific Christian communities are each under-represented. Second, association is not causation. Religious involvement travels with social support, structured routines, meaning-making, and behavioural norms that are themselves protective. Teasing out the independent contribution of faith per se is genuinely hard.

Kenneth Pargament and religious coping. Pargament's work (notably The Psychology of Religion and Coping, Guilford, 1997) is the most important contribution to clinical practice. His central insight is that how a person uses their faith in hard times matters more than whether they are religious in the abstract.

Pargament distinguishes positive religious coping from negative religious coping.

Positive religious coping includes seeking a collaborative relationship with God, looking for spiritual support, reframing a stressor as an opportunity for growth, and drawing on a benevolent image of the divine. It is consistently associated with better outcomes over time.

Negative religious coping includes interpreting suffering as divine punishment, feeling abandoned or rejected by God, experiencing "spiritual struggle" as a ruminative loop, and interpreting a stressor as the work of evil spiritual forces to the exclusion of other factors. This pattern is associated with worse outcomes, sometimes substantially worse, including higher rates of depression, anxiety, and complicated grief.

This distinction is clinically load-bearing. A counsellor who ignores a client's faith misses an entire protective system. A counsellor who cheerleads for faith without attending to how the client is using her faith can reinforce a pattern that is quietly making her worse.

Everett Worthington and forgiveness research. Worthington's work on forgiveness interventions (for example, Forgiveness and Reconciliation, Routledge, 2006, and a body of randomised trials since) offers some of the strongest evidence that a specifically Christian framing of a psychological process can produce measurable mental health benefit. His REACH forgiveness model has been tested in both secular and Christian-adapted versions. Both work. The Christian-adapted version tends to work slightly better for Christian participants.

An important note: Worthington is careful that forgiveness in his model is intrapersonal, not reconciliation, and never a requirement for abuse survivors to return to unsafe situations. This is a distinction that matters deeply for trauma work, and one that badly done pastoral forgiveness language has often blurred.

Australian research. Research specifically in Australian samples is thinner. Studies by Leigh Hogarth and colleagues on religion and perinatal mental health, work by the Australian Institute of Family Studies on religion and family wellbeing, and smaller qualitative studies of Catholic and Pentecostal women's experiences of therapy give us some local texture. The broad Koenig-Pargament pattern seems to hold, but Australian faith communities are smaller, more culturally diverse, and less socially central than their American counterparts, which likely shifts the size of effects.

What this means for a woman considering therapy. If your faith is a genuine resource for you, a good counsellor should treat it as an asset, not interfere with it, and ask you respectfully how it fits with the work. If your faith is currently a place of struggle, a good counsellor should be able to sit inside that struggle without rushing to resolve it in either direction. The research does not tell anyone to pray more. It tells clinicians to pay attention.


4. What faith-integrated counselling looks like in practice

Faith-integrated counselling is, first, counselling. It follows the same ethical framework, the same evidence base, and the same scope-of-practice boundaries as any other counselling. What makes it "integrated" is that the client's faith is treated as a meaningful part of who she is, and is allowed to appear in the room rather than being left in the waiting area.

Several elements tend to mark it in practice.

Posture. The counsellor's basic stance is hospitable to faith without being instrumental about it. She is curious about what your faith means to you rather than filing it under a clinical category. She is comfortable using theological language when you use it, and equally comfortable with silence when the moment calls for silence. She does not try to interpret your faith for you, and she does not try to fix it.

Informed consent. Anything explicitly religious in the session happens by your invitation, with clear consent, and can be withdrawn at any time. Prayer in session, reference to Scripture, reference to sacraments, or reflection on a spiritual practice: none of these should ever appear without your saying yes. A counsellor who assumes is a counsellor who has lost the thread.

Prayer. Some faith-integrated counsellors will pray with a client who requests it, usually at the start or end of a session, usually briefly, and usually with a clear frame around what prayer in this context is and is not. Others prefer to leave prayer to the client's own life outside the room, and to work therapeutically on what prayer means to her. Either can be done well. Neither replaces the clinical work.

Scripture and sacred texts. For a Christian client, a passage from Scripture can function as a resource for meaning-making, a mirror for self-understanding, or a container for grief. Used well, it supports the work. Used badly, it becomes a bypass. A good counsellor pays attention to which is happening. If you notice yourself using Scripture to close a feeling down rather than open it up, that is information.

The Ignatian Examen and contemplative practice. The Examen, a short daily practice of reviewing the day in the presence of God, developed by Ignatius of Loyola in the sixteenth century, is a gift to therapeutic self-awareness. So are Lectio Divina, centring prayer, the rosary held as a contemplative rather than merely devotional practice, and the breath-work embedded in the Jesus Prayer. These are not therapy. They are spiritual practices that can, with the client's consent and direction, serve as scaffolds for the kind of self-observation good counselling cultivates.

Theological language, used carefully. Words like sin, grace, vocation, discernment, providence, and suffering carry huge weight in a faith tradition and very different weight in a clinical one. A counsellor who uses them casually risks flattening them. A counsellor who avoids them entirely risks sounding as if she has never really met the tradition. Precision matters.

The frame of the work. Faith-integrated counselling is still bound by the frame of counselling: confidentiality, informed consent, clear limits on scope, written notes, and professional accountability through a registration body. It is not a small group. It is not a friendship. Its warmth is real, and its structure is deliberate.


5. What faith-integrated counselling is not

This section matters as much as the last. A counsellor who knows her scope is a counsellor who can be trusted inside her scope.

It is not pastoral care. Pastoral care is the ministry of a pastor, priest, deacon, chaplain, pastoral associate, or trained lay minister, offered on behalf of a faith community. It draws on prayer, sacrament, Scripture, the wisdom of the tradition, and the resources of the community. It is a precious thing, and it belongs to the church. A counsellor is not your pastor.

It is not spiritual direction. Spiritual direction is an ancient Christian practice of accompaniment on the spiritual journey, offered by a trained spiritual director, usually monthly, usually focused on prayer, discernment, and the movements of God in a person's life. It is not therapy. A spiritual director does not work with complex trauma, eating disorders, perinatal mental illness, or suicidal ideation as her primary task. A counsellor does not do the work of a spiritual director.

Some women work with both concurrently. This can be excellent, provided each practitioner knows her role and the client is clear about what belongs where.

It is not prayer ministry. Prayer ministry, healing prayer, and related practices have a real place in Christian life. They are not counselling. They do not carry the scope-of-practice, training, supervision, and regulatory obligations that counselling does. A counsellor who slides into prayer ministry during a session has left the frame of counselling.

It is not deliverance work. Deliverance ministry is a specific practice in some Christian traditions. A counsellor is not a deliverance minister. A counsellor working with a woman who is experiencing intense spiritual distress will, when indicated and with her consent, refer her to trusted clergy while continuing the counselling work. Conflating the two is unsafe.

It is not a substitute for a qualified practitioner outside the counsellor's scope. Counsellors do not diagnose. Counsellors do not prescribe. Counsellors do not clinically assess or treat clinical disorders. A faith-integrated counsellor, like any counsellor, will refer you to a GP, psychologist, psychiatrist, or other appropriate practitioner when what you need sits outside her scope. Your faith does not change the scope of her practice.

If someone offering "Christian counselling" is not registered with a recognised body (ACA, PACFA, or a comparable professional association, or AHPRA for psychologists), is promising healing, is pressuring you to stop medication, is blurring roles between counselling and church leadership, or is offering to perform spiritual practices in place of clinical work, the flags are red. Walk out.


6. How to choose a faith-informed counsellor

There is no single right answer to this question. There is a set of questions that will help you find yours.

Questions to ask before you book.

  • What is your registration? The two main Australian counsellor bodies are the Australian Counselling Association (ACA) and the Psychotherapy and Counselling Federation of Australia (PACFA). Psychologists are registered through AHPRA. Each has public registers you can check.
  • How do you understand the relationship between your faith and your clinical work? A clear answer, spoken without defensiveness, is a good sign. A vague answer, or an answer that makes faith a prerequisite for the work, is worth noting.
  • Do you pray with clients? Under what conditions? How do you handle consent? There is no single correct answer here. What you are listening for is thoughtfulness, not a rule.
  • How do you work with clients whose faith looks different from yours? A faith-informed counsellor should be able to hold clients respectfully across the Catholic–Protestant spectrum, and across varying levels of observance.
  • Where does your scope end? Where would you refer me? A counsellor who can answer this question has done the work.
  • How do you work with trauma, and how do you think faith fits into that work? If the answer collapses trauma into a spiritual category, that is a flag. If the answer has no room for faith at all in trauma recovery, that is a different kind of flag.

Credentials to look for.

  • ACA Level 1, 2, 3, or 4 membership; or PACFA membership; or AHPRA registration as a psychologist.
  • Membership of the Christian Counsellors Association of Australia (CCAA) is a useful further signal of faith-informed practice, though it is not a substitute for one of the above.
  • Supervised practice, continuing professional development, and clear professional indemnity insurance.

Red flags.

  • No registration with any recognised body.
  • Unwillingness to articulate scope or refer.
  • Promises of healing, transformation, or deliverance as therapeutic outcomes.
  • Pressure to stop medication, leave a psychologist, or cut off other supports.
  • Mixing counselling with church authority, pastoral discipline, or money flows back to a ministry.
  • A marketing frame that leans on fear, urgency, or shame.

Practical logistics. In Australia, counsellor sessions are not Medicare-rebatable, which is true of most ACA-registered counsellors. This can feel like a barrier until you weigh the alternative. Psychology wait times in regional Australia can extend to weeks or months, with regional averages reported at around 55 days in recent surveys, and psychology sessions are capped at 10 per year under a Mental Health Treatment Plan. Counsellors have no session cap, generally shorter wait times, and, in the case of Safe Refuge, a fee structure below typical psychologist gap fees. This is not an argument against seeing a psychologist when you need one. It is an argument that cost and access are more complicated than the Medicare framing makes them look.


7. A Catholic frame

This section is written specifically for Catholic women. It assumes a Catholic reader and uses the tradition's own language.

The Catechism on the stewardship of health. The Catechism of the Catholic Church paragraph 2288 teaches that "life and physical health are precious gifts entrusted to us by God. We must take reasonable care of them, taking into account the needs of others and the common good." This is not a marginal teaching. It places the care of mental as well as physical health within the moral life. To seek professional help when you are struggling is, in this frame, not a concession to weakness but a particular form of stewardship.

Paragraphs 2284 to 2287 on scandal and responsibility, and 2289 on a false cult of the body, give the full context. The tradition is neither body-denying nor body-idolising. The care of the whole person, body and soul, is integral.

Catholic Social Teaching and human dignity. The principle of human dignity, rooted in the imago Dei (Genesis 1:27) and articulated across the encyclical tradition from Rerum Novarum (1891) through Gaudium et Spes (1965) to Fratelli Tutti (2020), is the frame within which Catholic engagement with mental health sits. Each person is willed, loved, necessary. Mental illness is not a punishment, not a moral failure, not a lesser state of being. Stigma against those living with mental illness is incompatible with Catholic anthropology.

Gaudium et Spes paragraph 14 is particularly useful: the human person is "one in body and soul," and is "required to regard his body as good and honourable." Integration of the person is not a novelty imported from secular psychology. It is a Catholic commitment.

The sacraments alongside therapy. The sacraments are not therapy, and therapy is not a sacrament. They operate in different registers, and the confusion of the two has produced much of the bad practice on both sides.

Confession is not the airing of psychological material. A good confessor will gently redirect a penitent who is using confession to process trauma rather than to reconcile with God. The anointing of the sick, the Eucharist, and liturgical prayer nourish the life of grace. They do not replace the clinical work of processing a stored-up grief, a postnatal spiral, or the aftermath of abuse.

Conversely, therapy is not the forum for absolution. A counsellor who functions as a quasi-confessor is a counsellor who has lost the frame.

For many Catholic women, the sacraments and therapy together do what neither does alone. Mass on a Sunday and a counselling session on a Tuesday are not in competition. They belong to the same person.

Working with a spiritual director and a counsellor concurrently. This is often fruitful. Spiritual direction attends to your prayer life, your sense of vocation, and the movement of grace. Counselling attends to the psychological material: the trauma, the grief, the anxiety, the relational patterns, the perinatal distress. Each holds a distinct frame.

A few practical notes. Choose practitioners who respect each other's work. Tell each that you are seeing the other. Do not ask your counsellor to be your spiritual director, or your spiritual director to be your counsellor. If you are struggling to find either, the Jesuits, the Carmelites, many diocesan spirituality offices, and lay-led associations offer trained spiritual directors, and the CCAA directory and ACA and PACFA registers list counsellors.

A note on saints and the witness of the tradition. The tradition is not short of witnesses to the reality of psychological suffering. Thérèse of Lisieux wrote of her "night of faith." Mother Teresa's dark night, revealed in her letters, is a document of profound interior desolation held within a life of unwavering service. Ignatius of Loyola distinguished consolation from desolation with a clinician's care. This is a tradition that knows what it is to suffer inwardly, and that has never seen such suffering as incompatible with holiness.


8. A Protestant and evangelical frame

This section is written specifically for Protestant and evangelical women. The distinctions in this section are internal to the Protestant world, and matter.

Biblical counselling and integrative counselling. Inside Australian evangelical life, two broad streams have shaped how Protestant women experience "Christian counselling."

Biblical counselling (sometimes "nouthetic counselling," after Jay Adams's 1970 Competent to Counsel) holds, in its stronger forms, that Scripture is sufficient for counselling and that secular psychology has little to contribute. Contemporary biblical counselling is often gentler than its 1970s origins, and some of its practitioners do excellent pastoral work. The concern, from a clinical standpoint, is that this frame is not equipped to handle complex trauma, perinatal mental illness, psychotic episodes, severe depression, suicidal ideation, eating disorders, or substance dependence. A biblical counsellor working outside her competence with a woman in serious distress can cause real harm.

Integrative counselling is the broader evangelical stream, represented internationally by figures like Diane Langberg, Dan Allender, and Curt Thompson, and in Australia by CCAA-affiliated practitioners and by evangelically identified ACA and PACFA members. This stream takes Scripture seriously, takes the evidence base of clinical psychology seriously, and tries to hold both honestly. It is generally the stream to look for if you want a faith-integrated counsellor.

The distinction is not tidy, and good practitioners exist along a spectrum. What you are looking for is a counsellor whose theology is careful and whose clinical frame is sound.

CBT and trauma work alongside Scripture. Cognitive behavioural therapy, trauma-focused CBT, EMDR, and somatic and narrative approaches to trauma all have strong evidence bases. Christian clients can use them without ceasing to be Christian. The cognitive distortions CBT addresses are not the same category as doctrinal beliefs. Trauma work that slows the nervous system and helps the body move out of survival mode is not a competitor to grace. A counsellor who helps you notice a catastrophising pattern is not asking you to stop trusting God.

A counsellor working well in this space will, when indicated, draw on Scripture as a resource for meaning-making while keeping the clinical work clinical.

Discernment around church-only approaches to complex trauma. This is difficult to write, and it needs to be written.

In some church cultures, women disclosing complex trauma (childhood sexual abuse, intimate partner violence, spiritual abuse, coercive control) have been offered a response that begins and ends with prayer, Scripture reading, accountability partners, and forgiveness teaching. This response is insufficient and, in some cases, harmful. Trauma is held in the body and in the nervous system as well as in memory. It requires clinical work as well as, not instead of, the work of faith.

If your church has suggested that complex trauma should be resolved within the church without professional help, please find a qualified trauma-informed counsellor. Faith-integrated if that matters to you. Secular if that is what you can access. This is not a loss of faith. It is an act of stewardship in the Catechism's sense and of wisdom in the Proverbs sense.

Good churches know this. Many Australian evangelical and Anglican leaders now routinely refer to qualified counsellors and walk alongside their members in that process. If your church does not, your need for help is still real.

Forgiveness, carefully. Forgiveness is a central Christian teaching and a complicated clinical territory. Worthington's research (see section 3) and the consensus of trauma-informed clinicians agree on two things. Forgiveness, when it comes, is intrapersonal work that reduces the grip of a past harm on the present. Forgiveness is not reconciliation, is not required to be fast, is not a tool of pressure in the hands of a pastor or counsellor, and is never a reason to return to an unsafe relationship. A counsellor who rushes you to forgiveness is a counsellor who has misunderstood both the research and the tradition.


9. A note from Aana

I am a registered counsellor (ACA Level 1), a practising Catholic, and a mother. I work in the Adelaide Hills and see clients nationally via telehealth.

When women ask me whether they have to choose between therapy and their faith, I tell them no, and I also tell them that the question is reasonable. It has a long history behind it, and it has been earned by bad experiences on both sides.

In my room, faith shows up if you want it to. It stays outside if you do not. The clinical frame holds either way. I will not pray with you unless you ask, and I will not interpret your faith to you. I will not pretend to be your priest, your pastor, or your spiritual director, because I am none of those things and your life is served by those distinctions being kept clean.

What I can do is sit with what you are carrying, hold the frame while you work, and, when your faith is part of the picture, treat it with the care it deserves. I am happy to work alongside a spiritual director, a GP, a psychologist, a psychiatrist, or a good priest. The best work often happens in that kind of company.

If you are not sure whether I am the right counsellor for you, a free Discovery Call is the way to find out. I would rather you find a good fit, even if that fit is someone else.


10. Resources

Professional registers and directories.

  • Australian Counselling Association (ACA): public register of registered counsellors, searchable by state and specialty. theaca.net.au.
  • Psychotherapy and Counselling Federation of Australia (PACFA): public register. pacfa.org.au.
  • Christian Counsellors Association of Australia (CCAA): directory of Christian counsellors across traditions. ccaa.net.au.
  • Australian Health Practitioner Regulation Agency (AHPRA): psychologist register. ahpra.gov.au.

Catholic mental health and wellbeing resources.

  • CatholicCare and Centacare agencies (varying by diocese) offer counselling services across Australia, often on a sliding scale.
  • The Personal Advocacy Service and a number of diocesan wellbeing offices run groups and support networks.
  • The Australian Catholic Bishops Conference Office for the Participation of Women publishes resources relevant to women's wellbeing.

Australian faith-informed practitioner groups.

  • CCAA-affiliated counsellors (cross-denominational, predominantly evangelical and Pentecostal, with Catholic members).
  • Catholic counsellors and psychologists associated with the Pontifical John Paul II Institute Melbourne session, the Catholic Psychotherapy Association (US-based, with Australian links), and informal Australian Catholic clinical networks.

Recommended reading.

For a careful introductory frame:

  • Harold G. Koenig, Dana King and Verna Benner Carson, Handbook of Religion and Health, 2nd edition, Oxford University Press, 2012.
  • Kenneth I. Pargament, The Psychology of Religion and Coping, Guilford Press, 1997.
  • Everett L. Worthington, Forgiveness and Reconciliation, Routledge, 2006.

For Christian practitioners and clients:

  • Diane Langberg, Suffering and the Heart of God, New Growth Press, 2015.
  • Curt Thompson, Anatomy of the Soul, Tyndale, 2010.
  • Dan Allender, The Wounded Heart, NavPress (updated editions).

For Catholic readers:

  • Catechism of the Catholic Church, paragraphs 2288 and surrounding.
  • Pope Francis, Fratelli Tutti (2020), on human dignity and care for the wounded.
  • Sidney Callahan, Called to Happiness: Where Faith and Psychology Meet, Orbis, 2011.

For contemplative practice as a resource:

  • Timothy Gallagher, The Examen Prayer, Crossroad, 2006.
  • Cynthia Bourgeault, Centering Prayer and Inner Awakening, Cowley, 2004.

Note on the evidence. Much of the quantitative research cited here is Protestant-weighted and American. The qualitative literature on Catholic, Orthodox, and Australian Christian women is much smaller. Where this guide speaks confidently, it speaks from the best available evidence. Where the evidence thins, it says so.


11. Help-seeking strip

If you are in crisis, please reach out now. You do not have to work out which service fits best. Any of them will help you find the right door.

  • Lifeline: 13 11 14 (24 hours, 7 days)
  • Beyond Blue: 1300 22 4636 (24 hours, 7 days)
  • PANDA (perinatal anxiety and depression): 1300 726 306
  • 13YARN (crisis support for Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander people): 13 92 76
  • 1800RESPECT (sexual assault, domestic and family violence): 1800 737 732
  • Emergency services: 000

If you would like to talk about counselling with Aana, you can book a free Discovery Call at saferefuge.com.au.


Feature excerpt (for Catholic Weekly, Eternity News, or comparable placement)

Approximately 400 words.

Do I have to choose between therapy and my faith?

The question arrives in a dozen forms and is nearly always the same question. "I want to see a counsellor, but I am worried she will treat my faith as a symptom." "I want a Christian counsellor, but I am worried I will get prayer when what I need is proper help for what happened to me." "My priest said to talk to someone. My friend said to pray more. I do not know who is right."

The short answer is no. You do not have to choose.

The longer answer is that faith and good therapy can sit in the same room when the counsellor understands both the clinical frame and the theological frame, and knows where her own scope ends.

The research, read carefully, supports this. Harold Koenig's Handbook of Religion and Health (Oxford, 2012) reviews more than 3,000 studies and finds, on balance, that religious involvement is associated with lower rates of depression, lower suicide rates, and better coping with serious illness. Kenneth Pargament's work on religious coping (Guilford, 1997) makes the clinically crucial distinction between positive religious coping (collaborative relationship with God, benevolent divine image, reframing for growth) and negative religious coping (interpreting suffering as divine punishment, feeling abandoned by God), which is associated with worse outcomes. Everett Worthington's forgiveness research adds measured support for Christian-adapted interventions, with the firm caveat that forgiveness is intrapersonal work, not reconciliation, and never a reason to return to an unsafe relationship.

Catholic teaching places this work within the moral life. The Catechism paragraph 2288 names the care of health, body and mind, as a gift entrusted to us. Gaudium et Spes 14 insists on the unity of the person, body and soul. To seek help when you are struggling is a form of stewardship, not a failure of faith.

Counselling, however, is not pastoral care, not spiritual direction, not prayer ministry. These belong to the church, and they are precious. A counsellor who knows her scope will tell you so, and will help you find those things elsewhere when you need them.

Counsellors support, help, explore, and guide. Diagnosis and clinical treatment sit with psychologists, psychiatrists, and GPs. Within that scope, faith can be held carefully alongside the clinical work, by a practitioner who takes both seriously.

Aana Carpenter is a registered counsellor (ACA Level 1) and a practising Catholic. She is the founder of Safe Refuge Counselling, a private counselling practice for women, based in Mount Barker, South Australia, and operating nationally via telehealth.

If this article has raised distress, please call Lifeline on 13 11 14 or Beyond Blue on 1300 22 4636.

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